Personal Growth, Psychology

Open Letter to Younger Me

Dear Little Me,

Let me start by saying, you are a wonderful person & I wouldn’t change a thing about you. After years of soul searching, ups-and-downs, confusion & stress. Finally, I have the courage and clarity to write this letter. I know it’s way too long to hold your attention. But, I promise, you will thank me later.

01. He loves me; He loves me not (Effeuiller la Marguerite)

If it is conditional, it’s not Love.

~ Jaggi Vasudev

Unfortunately, most of the time what we define or seek isn’t love, but validation. Love is unconditional, no judgement or restriction. But, the people we share this affection with, are multifaceted & conditional. Especially, if someone’s approval defines your existence. 

Love is not earned. Love is not proven. When someone loves you, they love you for who you are, not for what you do. For the most part, one can’t pick & choose who they fall in love with. But, one can definitely choose what they do with these feelings. 

02. Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

All relationships are your mirrors and all people are your teachers.

~ Barbara De Angelis

The choices we make in our relationships are the reflection of our relationship with true self & the beliefs we have adopted about life & love. I know it sounds cliché, but it’s the most challenging lesson we are to learn, to cultivate healthy relationships.

The truth is, we attract those who resonate with our strongest traits, defined as the “Mirror Effect”.

If someone had an abusive childhood, they are drawn to narcissistic ties because to them, it seems to be a normal part of relationships. A learned pattern of behaviour for attachment. A toxic situation, where abuse is often mistaken for love by those trapped in that cycle.

The rule of thumb is, if you love yourself & feel good about being you then the outside world will reflect that by treating you with love, kindness & respect. If you don’t feel good about yourself then others will trigger situations to show you that. They may be mean, unfair, making you feel unworthy. 

Remember, you have the magic, you can’t impact the outside world but you can always learn to love yourself that will in turn, impact your life positively.

03. Dream Big, Fly High

Never let someone stand in the way of your dreams, don’t shy away from dreaming. Don’t doubt or question, it’s your right to have a vision.

Dream big, dream small, be everything you want & wish for all. Be an Astronaut. Be a Doctor. Dream of changing the world. Dream of eradicating poverty. Dream of free education to children.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you can’t do something. Prove them wrong. Life is too short for “If” & “But”.  Just go for it, girl.

Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.

~ Richard Wilkins

04. Never Give Up

Little one, life won’t be easy & there shall be times when you will be lonely, afraid or lost. You might feel everyone is deafened to your pain & heart ache. Just stay strong & keep your head up. 

Everything happens for a reason, even though that reason might be unclear to us at that moment but trust the process. Live in the moment & let life unfold organically. 

Be yourself, express & radiate the beauty  that exists within your core. Don’t be scared, speak your mind & stand up for your beliefs.

Love every bit of you, honor yourself & never let anyone project their insecurities on you. When you are struggling, just remember this shall pass too. There is always a better tomorrow awaiting you, my love.

Treat yourself the way you want to be treated by others, love yourself and you will be loved.

~ Rhonda Byrne

You are meant for great things. Just be yourself. You will be “one” badass woman, I promise!

Love you, Always & Forever!

Older & Wiser A