Personal Growth, Relationships

Happily Ever After | Is Your Choice

Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.

~ Anthony J. D’Angelo

Relationships are complicated. They are the most sought-after topic everyone can relate to. Furthermore, they require a lot of investment emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially.

Some work out, and others don’t. Some end up with beautiful lifelong memories while few with eye-opening, harsh life lessons.

As quoted, most successful “Happily Ever Afters” have endured some significant hardships and emerged stronger. Every connection has its ups & downs. But, how we tackle those hurdles together constitute the foundation of a healthy long term partnership. 

True love stories never have endings.

~ Richard Bach

Every connection, whether romantic or platonic, requires a certain level of understanding and compromise when rest all is well, but it should not be the way of life where one settles or adopts to keep the peace or evade confrontations. 

There are certain Red Flags that we need to discern where our inner self is screaming, “No, Thank You.”

01. Think Before You Speak

Likes, dislikes, opinions, present, past, and future; all these factors paint every association with unique shades of affection, understanding, and engagement. 

Communication is the heart of a relationship and adds the true essence to that connection. Discuss your worries with your companion. Don’t hold back, hide, or restrain your emotions. 

Speak up!

But, be kind to yourself & your partner. Learn to filter your messages, ensuring you are not inconsiderate when upset. Words can cause lasting damage to relations. 

If your heart is not aligned with your reality. It may end in an unhappy, troubled situation that may lead to the gradual death of a connection. 

Discuss and dissolve the barriers that can influence your life negatively. 

Even after multiple attempts to communicate your problems, if your partner is turning a deaf ear, this is a concern you cannot ignore.  

The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.

~ Tony Robbins

02. Always your Fault? Nope, It’s Not

Mistakes happen we are human & it’s the part of being alive, but it’s vital not to dwell on them. Also, clear away cobwebs of the past to move forward. 

If someone is continuously blaming you around, every little aspect of the relationship that doesn’t work out as planned. It’s a natural instinct to feel guilty. Don’t take responsibility to simply rest the problem and move on. This isn’t a sign of a healthy partnership. 

Please, understand every relationship requires both the individuals engaging fairly, and it’s not your burden to keep everyone happy. 

There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.

~ Bryant H. McGill

03. Mutual Respect

Remember that connections are built on the grounds of mutual trust. 

You connect, you relate with each other, and create a partnership that’s the pulse of your association. Mutual Respect involves: Talking openly and honestly. Listening. Honoring each other’s feelings and needs.  

When two different personalities unite, it’s not unusual to hold differences of opinion, and at times, the matters are hotly debated, & small arguments are inevitable. However, there are no hard feelings towards each other.

Relationships to remain healthy, both partners must be equally respected and appreciated. You don’t have to continuously strive to keep a relationship together; this should be mutual.

Mutual respect is the foundation of genuine harmony.

~ Dalai Lama

04. Trust Thyself & Thy Partner

It’s impossible to hold a healthy partnership without trusting each other. Love & trust are strongly intertwined. 

Without trust, a relationship will be shaky and will eventually fail. Trust is one of the cornerstones of any relationship—without it, two people cannot be comfortable with each other, and the link will lack stability. 

To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them. You feel emotionally, physically, financially, and mentally secure around your partner. 

You don’t have to think twice about being yourself or endure the fear of oversharing, the worry of burdening your partner, or them abandoning you. You should be empowered to discuss your future with them.

Love cannot live where there is no trust.

~ Edith Hamilton

If any of these elements are missing in your connection or you catch yourself, making excuses for your partner’s repeating patterns. This is certainly, your psyche suppressing the obvious & avoiding the truth;

Moreover, there is a need to backtrack your steps to understand the current and future state of your relationship.

I wish you much good luck in finding your “Happily Ever After.”