Personal Growth, Psychology

Being Unapologetically You | Self Love

Greetings from Toronto!

Staying stuck at home base and navigating through my emotions, I can’t shake this feeling off; How this global tragedy reshaped a multitude of lives, with over 12 million lives grappling for survival and over 550,000 souls bidding their goodbyes – our new normal.

Slowly, my bamboozled brain sank into a whirling tide of thoughts, an “Epiphany,” the newfound gratitude for being alive. 

How fragile is our reality? 

How underrated is the concept called life?

How naive we are, to the fact that our lives have no expiry date?

Consider each day a miracle – which indeed it is, when you consider the number of unexpected things that could happen in each second of our fragile existence.

~ Paulo Coelho

There is much to learn from this shared experience of ours.

1. Take Charge

We are solely responsible for our lives. Life is too short for leaving it on luck and waiting for a miracle.

We are continually evolving and can’t afford to remain trapped in our Past – mistakes, experiences, or memories. Consider them as the hues that painted thee now – a lesson learnt, a moment shared, or a campfire story worth credit and move forward. 

Stop reliving your Past and losing your precious Present. What you could impact is yours Now.

Focus!!!

It’s not the shit we face that defines us; it’s how we deal with it.

~ Ahmed Mostafa

2. Be the Change You Seek

If you fancy a life of your dreams, start by taking baby steps. 

While one may assume that big changes are the only way to see results, modest lifestyle tweaks can actually make a huge difference. Smaller changes are more comfortable to achieve, manage and assimilate without twisting our arms.

Numerous things are accessible within moments at our fingertips. Utilize those resources. 

For, e.g. If you wish to learn a new skill, take a virtual evening class twice a week. 

If you want to start a new business, join a group of entrepreneurs, gain knowledge, research the market, and bounce ideas off of friends and family.

Take charge of your life! The tides do not command the ship. The sailor does.

~ Ogwo David Emenike

3. Be Kind

Changes take time. Be empathetic to your needs. We place huge expectations on ourselves and want to achieve those goals in an unreasonable timeframe. We overlook some essential components – our health, wealth, time, relationships or other engagements that could influence those timelines.

As a result, we fail and get disheartened, and these repeated disappointments lead to dampening of our will. 

Soon, our efforts go from the “best” to “meh,” and we hide behind theories such as “If it’s meant to be, it will happen,” outsourcing our destiny to the Universe and letting the higher power take ownership for our miscalculations.

Wake up my friend, the burden of change is solely on you. 

Your problem will never go away unless you deal with it. You have the power to turn your life around, take ownership, this involves your beliefs, expression, and actions. 

There may be fairies, there may be elves, but God helps those who help themselves.

~ Stephen King

4. Cherish Your Life

No matter what you did, where you are or what mode of access you have, Social Media is likely involved. Catching up with friends on Facebook, posting pictures on Instagram or meeting prospects on Bumble. Social Media is deeply embedded in every facet of our lives. 

At times, to the extend of being an addiction. We bid on outside validation to feel worthy; on the number of friends, likes, or shares we have on social media.

Scrolling through airbrushed snapshots of friend’s Bahama vacay to flaunting that perfect figure invokes envy and discontent with our current lives. The Fear of missing out (FOMO) highlights the lack in our lives, others are having more fun than you or better lives than you are.  

We all know that people tend to highlight only happy times, rarely the low points in their experiences. They want others to admire them, and publicizing their vulnerable bits’ would diminish their perfection. 

Master the world outside the World Wide Web (WWW); It’s important to remember that social media can never be a replacement for real-world human connections. 

Don’t let Tom, Dick or John Doe, a visitor, define your self-worth. Only you have the power.

Be Unapologetically You !!!

If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.

~ Taylor Swift

Change your mindset. Shift your perception to a better tomorrow. You are the author of your biography, choose the story you want to write. Let it be an example for others to look back at and be proud of.

Life goes on…

Whether you choose to move on and take a chance in the unknown. Or stay behind, locked in the past, thinking of what could’ve been.

~ Unknown

Love,

A